Wednesday, March 13, 2013
Liar, Liar. . .Pants On Fire
The last time I'd seen that look was in the mirror. I stood in the bathroom, brushing my teeth as my husband casually asked if we'd paid the phone bill yet. There was the face! Blank, shocked, and searching. . ."Yep." I replied, thinking I've GOT to pay that today! I knew I hadn't done it yet. I knew I was lying, but I did it anyway.
How often do we demonstrate the kind of honesty that we demand from our kids? How many times have we "fibbed" to our spouse about how much we've spent at the store, to the officer who stopped us speeding on the highway, to our pastor, mother, aunt, best friend about how we are really doing? It's a good thing that liars pants really don't catch on fire, because we'd all be walking around in flames!
I've had to come clean with my little man about the generational curse of lying and how it affects all of us. The only thing that has impacted his tendency for "fibbing" is the understanding that it is also something that mommy and daddy struggle with as well. We are all prone to protect our reputations, giving a good impression, and living lives that are laden with silly,petty untruths because our biggest flaw in life since the beginning of time is the need to be successful. We hate for anyone to know that we've failed. . .so we lie. We cover up all the blemishes and behaviors that we don't like about ourselves in hopes that people will only see what we want them to see. The problem is, God sees the dirt.
We are slowly learning in our family that honesty really is the best policy. Even when it's not pretty. Even if it means that we didn't do our homework and we completely forgot to pay the phone bill. My bet is that all kids learn best when they can see OUR mistakes. Admitting when we failed, when we forgot, when we've lied. When we as parents live transparently, we send the message to our children that it's okay to not be perfect. There's no need to hide. There's no need to lie. But there is a definite need for TRUTH.